Anonymous asked:
If you are going to have literally no criteria for being queer, then how can you say that anyone isn't? How can you refer to any person in any context as cis/straight?
hater-of-terfs answered:
If someone tells me they’re queer I believe them. If someone tells me they’re straight I believe them. This isn’t that hard
What so like a cis het allo person can just call themselves queer now?
What problem, exactly, are you so concerned about? I don’t know if you’ve noticed but queerness is still very much marginalized, it’s not as “trendy” as people try to act, and straight people aren’t tripping over themselves to call themselves queer. And if you’re worried about being “tricked” by “infiltrators”, like, you know those people can just say that they’re gay? Like they can lie? They’re not going to try and “sabotage” queer spaces by saying “hey I don’t have any marginalized orientations or identities but I’m still totally queer”, they’d just say “hey I’m super gay, love people of the same gender”
What, concretely, are you worried about happening? What’s the worst thing that could happen due to inclusivity? Because the worst things that can happen due to gatekeeping are very well-known, and I’m much more scared of that
It’s less that it’s trendy and more like, I like having my queer-only spaces. Also queer is a bad word. All our words are bad words. They aren’t oppressed, and for a cishetallo to use a slur as their identity feels a little demeaning to me. Like I dont hate them of course but the A was never for Ally . It’s not queer to be normal
Interacting with them is cool and having them at pride I’m not opposed to but as a person who’s queer it does feel like they’re kinda dressing it up
Im gonna be honest Ive never seen people like that but like, I’m allowed to not like it
I’m not going to distrust and exclude people because of a problem you made up. If someone tells me they’re queer, I believe them
“When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time” is a really popular thing to say on Tumblr when we’re talking about people being assholes or whatever, but people never seem to follow that through to the logical conclusion of actually believing people when they really tell you who they are.
What queer only spaces are hets lying about to get into? Like it is either straight girls being openly straight at gay bars or conservatives dressing up as woman to say “ooooh, if I SAY I’m trans then you have to do whatever I say, right? Call me Princess Lovely Tits! I’m very smart at owning libs!”
Like, I’ve NEVER gone to a queer nerdy event and seen anyone “obviously cis” trying to get in. Why would they?
Also, to the original Anon-
If the mythical leagues of cishet allo people out there pretending to be queer did actually exist… good. That’s more boots on the ground at a protest, more votes at the ballot, more public pressure for acceptance and more eyes keeping everyone safe. I wish being queer was trendy and cool and easy and something everyone wanted to be, I wish tons and tons of outsiders were putting on the flags and locking arms with us, that world would be so much fucking easier to live in. Exclusionists out here imagining a vastly better world and going “noooo what if that was real? We’d better put up bullshit barriers and scrutinise everyone and push people out if they don’t bare their soul convince me personally that they can match up to my ever-changing bullshit rules! Otherwise that might happen!”
if someone is so lonely and sad that they’re lying their way into queer spaces to gain access to a community, and instead of just being nice to this one unusual guy, your response is to ramp up being a colossal jerk to everyone else in the community…
why would we kick out the poor liar who just needs some kindness, instead of the unrepentant asshole who refuses to believe in kindness at all?
i love having friends with favorite colors & shit so i can just send them random crap like yess this is pink ill show it to the pink friend this has a fish ill show it to the fish friend. fish is a color btw
Not everything is a personal attack against you. Your friend may not be ignoring you on purpose but may be feeling drained. Someone isn’t always being short with you because they’re angry at you but may be trying to hold their own emotions together. Please don’t always assume malicious intent. Most of the time, people are just being people and trying to survive their own lives. It’s not necessarily about you.
French the language of love the only language aziraphale is not fluent in
no no wait hold on. French, the language of love, is the only language Aziraphale decided to learn the hard way. He chose to do it the human way, without the aid of a Heavenly miracle. And, yes, he's bad at it. He's awkward about it. But the important bit is he still keeps trying.
i gotta say i agree that exposing children to algorithmic content feeds is going to make them grow up with one billion new kinds of mental illnesses and it's a serious societal problem that urgently needs addressing but it makes me v. v. v. uneasy when i see posts going around that identify this issue and come to the conclusion 'this is why it's important for parents to know what their kid is doing online' and uh girls there are a lot of kids out there who would be dead if their parents knew what they were doing online
"yeah this aspect of capitalism is extremely alienating and traumatizing" and im nodding and smiling and then they add "which is why we must retreat to the safety of the family" and i start abruptly high-pitched screaming like a fire alarm
wouldnt it be nice if they waited for him to be slightly awkward first
[ID: First image: a figure lying down with a blue soul leaving their body with text that reads "leftism leaving people's bodies as soon as an overweight man is slightly awkward."
Second image: the text is edited to say "leftism leaving people's bodies as soon as an overweight man." End ID.]
do you cut your own hair
yes
not by myself, someone else in my home cuts my hair for me
i used to, and dont anymore
no, but i want to
no, and i dont want to
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im super curious abt this so feel free to rb ! i wanted to also see if queerness/neurodivergence had any correlation but maybe in another poll
ive been thinking about it and i personally loved that the last night vale arc finally broke through the fantasy that carlos has made for himself of being just some random guy who moves liquid from one vial to another and then comes home to his loving babyboy husband or whatever when he's never been that ever...he was an insane, obsessed professor that dedicated years of his life to studying a supposed anomaly in the american south, ending up abandoning his entire life and going missing for decades searching to find that something/himself, eventually cutting off all communication with the outside world and erasing his life before that. his loving and cute attitude towards cecil is so weirdly contrasted with the fact that he's constantly hiding things from him and lying/avoiding telling the truth about himself. he was too weird for the outside world but too much of an outsider for night vale, he knows he doesn't really belong and that's why he's so obsessed with belonging. the fact that the metaphorical soul of the city married an intruder is funny until it's not funny anymore and it becomes a threat. suddenly he can't really go back to that dream anymore so i guess he's now trying to patch up the pieces of himself that he spent so much time cutting apart
SPIDER-MAN: ACROSS THE SPIDER-VERSE (2023)
[Image ID: five gifs of Miles Morales and Miguel O'Hara from their first meeting in Spider-Man: Across The Spider-Verse. Miguel is standing on a lowering platform far above where Miles and Gwen are standing below. The
GIF 1: Miles jerking his chin up n greeting, waving high up above his head as he smiles and says, "Hey! ¿Qué tal, tío?" The translation reads, "What's up, man?" Miles looks smug as he glances at Gwen and shrugs, saying "I-I speak Spanish."
GIF 2: A shot of Miguel from behind, standing on the platform as it lowers with his fists clenched by his sides. He is facing multiple monitors.
GIF 3: Miles raising a takeout box as he tells Miguel cheekily, "Te traje una empanada." Behind him, Hobie flips something around his hand, studying it. The translation reads, "I brought you an empanada."
GIF 4: Miguel whips around, aiming his fist in Miles' direction as his power shoots out and grabs the box. Miles looks startled.
GIF 5: Miguel, having fully turned, catching the box, studying it mildly before moving his hand off-screen, crushing the box into the trash. He says, "Qué maravilla." The translation reads, "Wonderful."
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there is, in fact, a "platonic explanation for this" if you're not a coward
its so fun to see the diversity of tags on this ranging from "they're literally just standing next to each other" to "deep bonds dont have to be romantic/sexual!" to "yeah friends can fuck nasty, platonically. coward." we're all so correct, there are, in fact, a million platonic explanations for this
I think it's important to let guys be gender non conforming without telling them they're a girl, cause actually misgendering people is still shit even when you are pro trans. "You're a girl, an egg waiting to crack, and that's ok" how about you are a boy and a man and it's still ok if you want to do something that doesn't align with traditional ideals of your gender. You can still be he/him in a skirt and makeup.
idk man frequently i talk to trans men and mascs who basically tell me that they came out as queer or nonbinary years ago, but were terrified to come out as men or transition in a way that would mean they were perceived as male even though the dysphoria was crushing
specifically bc of rejection from their communities, from other queer people, other trans people, bc men are bad and awful
like. a fella told me earnestly he read this essay about how masculinity isn't inherently toxic from another trans man and im so glad it was positive for him and gave him the courage to transition, but it was horrifying to me that he should be made to feel so disgusted by his own gender that he needed that
esp bc once you're out as queer you're already rejected by mainstream society, so other queers are all you have - the prospect of being ousted and rejected from those spaces bc you become A Man is naturally terrifying
and its literally just rad fem rhetoric of men and masculinity = evil and bad that's infected queer spaces like a festering mould. ppl do it to cis gay and queer men as well, and also just to nonbinary ppl they perceive as cis men bc they don't like their language etc, and to trans men and mascs
ppl are sometimes like. surprised. when i don't apologise for being a man and assert that loving men is natural and beautiful, and reject the appeal of womanhood or women
as if that's not queer enough when like ??? hi???? my attraction to other men IS the queerness?
I keep seeing a post that's like "it's so sweet that Crowley cleaned up the bookshop while Aziraphale was in Edinburgh" and I'm like listen, I get what you mean but that is not what's happening here, Aziraphale keeps his shop a mess on purpose to ward off customers and Crowley tries to alphabetize his CD collection to take his mind off the impending apocalypse but is thwarted by them already being alphabetized. That was stress cleaning and it was for Crowley's benefit.
he also definitely threw multiple stacks of books on the floor
